One of my role models, Richard Brandon said: “If someone offers you an amazing opportunity and you are not sure you can do it, say yes – then learn how to do it later”. This someone can quite easily be the face in the mirror. This links to the Banksy painting: “If you want to achieve greatness, stop asking for permission.”
One thing I have learned in life is that opportunities seldom comes around more than twice. The two times that an opportunity shows its face is when it knocks on our door and say “Here I am”. The second time we meet this opportunity is when we have to pay someone else who had the guts to follow their dreams, and realize the opportunities we were to foolish to pursue.
We most often say no to opportunities, because we have not been given permission to accept it. Even though we are adults, and we all have big dreams, we also long for someone giving us permission to achieve greatness. It is as if we need an inferior person telling us “yes, you have my worthless permission to be the best you, you can be.”
Ask the face in the mirror why we say no to opportunities (plural). When we are honest with ourselves we will realize we want permission because we are scared of failure and we are equally scared of success. Like John Mason says: “Get out of your own way.” We stand in our own way, because with success comes responsibilities.
Listen to all the excuses we tell ourselves, these excuses are mostly fuelled by fear. Fear that we might not succeed, or worst that we will succeed. Fear about what other people will say or might not say. Fear of the unknown, yet scared of the place where we are now. Fear is not a positive motivator for most of us. Like the attached Banksy image of the balloon flying away, we allow our dreams and opportunities, and with that our destinies, to drift off with the wind. Out there is a cowboy waiting to catch the opportunity destined for us, and ride off into the preverbal sunset of achievement and greatness WITH OUR OPPORTUNITIES.
The richest place in the world is the local cemetery. There are large numbers of unpainted paintings, unwritten book, million dollar ideas, life changing inventions, and all of it rotting away because we are scared of our own shadows. Stop asking for permission to achieve greatness. The ONLY one who needs to give us permission is the face with the lifeless eyes, wrinkles on the forehead and receding hairline staring back at us from the mirror. The best helping hand is at the end of one of our arms.
Wake-up and smell the coffee, or roses, or what even is needed to help wake up, and just do it. And if we are unsure if we can do it, learn as we go along.
Life is too short for worthless excuses, self-pity and missed opportunities. Carpe Diem; grab the day by the scruff of the neck and shape it the way we want it. Shape it the way we deserve it to be. If we don’t create our own future, no one else will.